This is\u00a0Episode 002<\/b><\/h2>\n
Your\u00a0employees don’t trust your leadership, as much as you really think.<\/h3>\n
But I am going to recommend a key step towards a cure…<\/h3>\n
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How To Start 2017 Off Right With Your Employees<\/h1>\n
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ZEMIRA JONES<\/a>\u00b7<\/span>SATURDAY, DECEMBER 31, 2016<\/a><\/i>4 Reads<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n
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How You Speak To Your Team Determines How Well You Lead.<\/h3>\n
Got a team that has low moral or suffers from internal battles? Battles you would like to end? When teams experience prolonged conflict it is usually a sign of victimhood.<\/h3>\n
Is your team pledged with a victimhood mentality where victimization is out of control? Where one or more of your team members sees themselves as a victim all the time? Well, there is a remedy for some of these symptoms. Victims suffer from a vitamin A deficiency- It’s called the lack of Acknowledgment.<\/h3>\n
Open your meetings with \u201cACKNOWLEDGEMENTS\u201d, have each member make voluntary acknowledgments of someone else on the team. If you stick with it, you will see a shift from complaints, criticism, victimization, and victimhood to Appreciation. Replace your “what I did great for the company” language to language appreciation for “what someone else did great for me” language. When you do start speaking this way it refocuses your team on results versus complaints.<\/h3>\n
Victim language is cancer that grows within your organization and must be radiated with vitamin A. Now your team is ready to focus on intentions, goals, and the effective outcomes. They will begin to see opportunities together they did not see moments before.<\/h3>\n
There are so many benefits of vitamin A (Appreciation) in your workplace. A kernel of team spirit and morale bump for starters. Increased productivity too if you keep at it. Reduced absenteeism and increase creativity will also be in your future. Improve problem-solving ability, Reduced turnover, increased idea sharing have also been realized with this injection.<\/h3>\n
The power of life and death are in the words you speak to your team.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Effective Communication With Diverse Teams<\/strong><\/p>\n
Posted on\u00a0April 30, 2012.\u00a0Tags:\u00a0communication<\/a><\/p>\n
If you\u2019re a leader in your organization, you\u2019ve likely experienced the exhilaration of having some on your team eager to respond to your slightest wish while others impulsively push back on your most deliberate command. In short, you experience an emotional connection with some on your team and others fight you at every turn, or at least resort to contrarian opinions every chance they get. Why is it? And what can be done about it?<\/h3>\n
If this is your question, you must believe there\u2019s a real answer. You\u2019ve seen skilled communicators reduce diverse audiences into warm putty in their hands just by how they address the group. How do they do it?\u00a0 Is it charisma or an innate gift?\u00a0 Fortunately, it\u2019s neither. It\u2019s the ability to elegantly and efficiently connect with your employee\u2019s emotional needs. The ability to invite yourself into another person\u2019s private conversation; the conversation that is going on in his or her head 24 hours a day.<\/h3>\n
It\u2019s the language we speak to ourselves about our deeply set emotional needs. These are needs that are hard-wired to our psychological programming. Part of it we were born with and the rest we acquired through conditioning. The combination forms our personal archetype, the personal story of our lives. We spend every waking hour of our day playing out that story in order to satisfy the six emotional needs fundamental to our existence and that must be fulfilled by everyone we encounter or we will reject them to some degree. We will do anything to achieve that emotional fulfillment. This is the secret to deep connection or rejection.<\/h3>\n
So why are these needs so powerful? They\u2019re powerful because we take in our entire life experience through their lens. They\u2019re universal to us as humans, and our personality and how we see the world is based on the priority we put on them. Of the six, we all have a top-priority need. It\u2019s the one we were born with as our driving need and the one we will have all our lives. The others tend to fall in line based on our life experience. This is why most of us end up with a primary and a secondary need that shapes who we are.<\/h3>\n
And what are these needs? They are\u00a0 1) Certainty 2) Variety or Uncertainty 3) Significance 4) Connection 5) Growth 6) Self-Esteem.<\/h3>\n
These are the six things we all crave, and one of them is your master need. We all need certainty in our lives.Who would what to live in a house if there was even a 10% chance that the roof would fall in due to faulty construction? If that were the case, you wouldn\u2019t think of staying there until it was fixed, and even then you might question the decision to go back. We also all need uncertainty or variety. Try eating the same food day after day or hearing the same sounds over and over. It would drive you crazy. There is so much variety built into our environment we take its deep-set need for granted. But without it, we would self-destruct.<\/h3>\n
So where does that leave us? With four emotional needs that literarily shape our personality, how we think, talk, act, and interact with the world, including our co-workers, bosses, and subordinates. It determines who helps make us feel good about ourselves and who doesn\u2019t , and why we perform well for some and not others. The remaining four, significance, connection, growth, and self-esteem are the drivers that shape our actions. We need to satisfy all four, but one is innate to us and requires no effort to operate out of. I call it our home neighborhood. When all of your social defenses are at rest, this is the personality that emerges. Your top emotional desire shapes the personality that has the best chance of satisfying your priority need. You will do anything within your personal moral boundaries to satisfy this need, including agreeing or fighting with your boss.<\/h3>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong; we\u2019re not one-trick ponies when it comes to personality styles. From infancy we\u2019ve learned that, by exerting a little effort, we can operate out of other personality styles, or neighborhoods, that are driven by the other three emotional needs. We learned to do this because we discovered that by exerting a little effort to behave out of a different neighborhood, we achieved what we wanted a little and sometimes a lot faster. Therefore, we developed these behavioral muscles to get want we want from others. But it takes effort.<\/h3>\n
Unfortunately, many of us aren\u2019t very good at making this type of move, and when we do, the shift isn\u2019t done consciously. This is the difference between an effective leader or communicator that connects with many different types of people on purpose and with ease and the rest of us. It is the difference between the Gettysburg Address and an awkward toast at a wedding. One nails all four emotional needs within a few words and the latter manages to insult the needs of almost everyone at the same time.<\/h3>\n
A skilled leader is born to operate out of one of the four neighborhoods, as we all are, but he or she knows how to discern which neighborhood is your home and consciously \u00a0communicates with you solely within the confines of it. Therefore, you connect with them with the least amount of emotional effort, and you feel great about it. When he or she says jump, you and how high. At least that\u2019s the feeling you have at the moment.<\/h3>\n
So what is the key to deep connection with a diverse team? Meet them at home. Connect with them in their own emotional neighborhood, the place where they have to exert the least amount of effort to operate from. They will love you for it and want to align with you \u00a0emotionally even if they intellectually disagree with you. The opposite is also true. If you\u2019re not helping your subordinates reach their core need and it becomes a habitual thing, they will find ways to work against you or at least become resistant to your directives.<\/h3>\n
There is a fair amount of science behind this, but let me boil it down this way: How quickly we take in the world and which part of it do we prefer to focus on first? Some of us prefer to tell the world first and then ask for forgiveness, while others prefer to ask first and get permission. This is all operating at the DNA level of our psyche. The other core component is where we focus first. Some reach for the task at hand first and are driven by achievement while others are much more concerned about the feelings and acceptance of others. This matrix of priorities captures all personalities and their core needs.<\/h3>\n
When you combine the preferences in people, what emerges are the four emotional needs we all have. The employee who\u2019s a significance person is driven by the need for control, power, winning, and saving time. The self-esteem driven employee thrives on recognition, being liked, and saving effort. The growth oriented person lives for respect, being right in the eye of his peers, and saving face. The connection employee is consistently looking for the approval of others, trust in the workplace, and rich relationships. There is a unique language preferred by each of these people. To enter the conversation, you must speak it. This is where deep-set connections with your team truly begins.<\/h3>\n
Zemira Jones is president of All American Management Group Inc. in Leesburg, VA.<\/em><\/p>\n
\u00a9 2015 <\/strong>All American Management Group, Inc.<\/p>\n
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Your\u00a0employees don’t trust your leadership, as much as you really think.<\/h3>\n

How You Speak To Your Team Determines How Well You Lead.<\/h3>\n

Got a team that has low moral or suffers from internal battles? Battles you would like to end? When teams experience prolonged conflict it is usually a sign of victimhood.<\/h3>\n

Victim language is cancer that grows within your organization and must be radiated with vitamin A. Now your team is ready to focus on intentions, goals, and the effective outcomes. They will begin to see opportunities together they did not see moments before.<\/h3>\n

The power of life and death are in the words you speak to your team.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Effective Communication With Diverse Teams<\/strong><\/p>\n
Posted on\u00a0April 30, 2012.\u00a0Tags:\u00a0communication<\/a><\/p>\n

And what are these needs? They are\u00a0 1) Certainty 2) Variety or Uncertainty 3) Significance 4) Connection 5) Growth 6) Self-Esteem.<\/h3>\n

Zemira’s latest PODCAST Show from The Manager Farm<\/h2>\n
[smart_track_player_latest url=”http:\/\/zemirajones.libsyn.com\/rss” title=”THE MANAGER FARM PODCAST” ]<\/p>\n

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How To Conduct Change In Your Business When Your Team Doesn\u2019t Trust You?<\/h2>\n

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I\u2019m Zemira Jones<\/h3>\n

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When managers and Leaders have challenges\u2026I know what to do<\/h3>\n

Zemira’s latest PODCAST Show from The Manager Farm<\/h2>\n[smart_track_player_latest url=”http:\/\/zemirajones.libsyn.com\/rss” title=”THE MANAGER FARM PODCAST” ]<\/p>\n

[smart_podcast_player social_twitter=”true” social_facebook=”true” social_gplus=”true” social_linkedin=”true” social_email=”true” ]<\/h2>\n

How To Conduct Change In Your Business When Your Team Doesn\u2019t Trust You?<\/h2>\n

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I\u2019m Zemira Jones<\/h3>\n

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and THIS is The Manager Farm Podcast<\/h3>\nWhere Managers Go To Grow Good People Who Grow Good People<\/div>\n<\/h3>\nWhen managers and Leaders have challenges\u2026I know what to do<\/h3>\n

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When managers and Leaders have challenges\u2026I know what to do<\/h3>\n

This is\u00a0Episode 002<\/b><\/h2>\nYour\u00a0employees don’t trust your leadership, as much as you really think.<\/h3>\nBut I am going to recommend a key step towards a cure…<\/h3>\n <\/p>\n<\/p>\n

Your\u00a0employees don’t trust your leadership, as much as you really think.<\/h3>\n

But I am going to recommend a key step towards a cure…<\/h3>\n <\/p>\n<\/p>\n

How You Speak To Your Team Determines How Well You Lead.<\/h3>\n

Got a team that has low moral or suffers from internal battles? Battles you would like to end? When teams experience prolonged conflict it is usually a sign of victimhood.<\/h3>\n

Victim language is cancer that grows within your organization and must be radiated with vitamin A. Now your team is ready to focus on intentions, goals, and the effective outcomes. They will begin to see opportunities together they did not see moments before.<\/h3>\n

The power of life and death are in the words you speak to your team.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n <\/p>\nEffective Communication With Diverse Teams<\/strong><\/p>\n

And what are these needs? They are\u00a0 1) Certainty 2) Variety or Uncertainty 3) Significance 4) Connection 5) Growth 6) Self-Esteem.<\/h3>\n

Zemira’s latest PODCAST Show from The Manager Farm<\/h2>\n
[smart_track_player_latest url=”http:\/\/zemirajones.libsyn.com\/rss” title=”THE MANAGER FARM PODCAST” ]<\/p>\n

The power of life and death are in the words you speak to your team.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Effective Communication With Diverse Teams<\/strong><\/p>\n
Posted on\u00a0April 30, 2012.\u00a0Tags:\u00a0communication<\/a><\/p>\n